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Are You Self-Centred?

Updated: Jan 25

William Temple wrote that "For the trouble is that we are self-centred, and no effort of the self can remove the self from the centre of its own endeavour."


This quagmire of troubles we were caught in came, in part, from our best efforts to be self-sufficient. This came from our ego. This came from a place of lack and fear.


The harder we worked to provide our own cures, to control others and everything in our lives, or to control ourselves, the more we fixed our attention upon ourselves. And this is our drawback. This is emotional insobriety. This need is a fallacy. It occurs when we are scared and feel like we need to take control. We don't: We need to surrender...


Being self-centred


We could not see that the answers we were using were actually part of the problem, not the solution. Even today, we may be partially caught in the folly of this thinking. Whenever we think we see our problems and the answers clearly but don’t open our incomplete selves to the wisdom of others and the Universe at large, we are in danger of intensifying our self-focus.


When we have a pattern of telling our fellow members the completed stories of our pain only when our pain has passed, we are maintaining our self-centred system. We need to be open, honest, and vulnerable at all times.


We can’t lift ourselves out of our self-centredness. We can only turn it over to our Higher Power and allow ourselves to be released.


I am grateful for the healing, which comes when I stop being so self-centred in my efforts. We need to stop trying to control everything and let go; slow down.


Trust the process. Nature will heal you in its own time. You trust a wound to heal: It's the same with your thinking..


Namaste.


Sending you love, light, and blessings brothers.


Olly



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