We are all masochists to some extent. We are our own harshest critics. We are too hard on our Selves. We judge our Selves incessantly.
Do you know how many times you have done something to your Self that you didn’t deserve? Did you ever hurt your Self? Whether physically, emotionally, spiritually, or mentally?
But why? Why are you so harsh on your Self?
Be kind to your Self
You are the first person who should love and accept your Self. In every aspect of life, be kind to your Self. You are doing the best you can and that’s enough - that should make you proud.
You don’t have to be good enough for people to love you. Be good enough for your Self, for you to love you. The kind of unconditional love you need can only be given to you by your Self. Be the love you never received! This is the process and gift of reparenting our Selves.
Go to the mirror, observe yourself closely, and accept everything that you see. Don’t hide the parts of you that you think are unlovable. Your shadow contains such light. You are worthy even when others don’t see your value. Your value is who you are, and that is non-negotiable.
Choose to love your Self right now. Heal for you, grow for you, and get better for you. Keep choosing your Self, again and again. You deserve it! Be kind to your Self.
Don’t hurt your Self. Instead, you should hug and congratulate your Self because you have come a long way, you have overcome many things on your own.
Remember, Self-love isn’t selfish - it’s necessary. Allow your Self to rest when you are tired. Allow yourself to make mistakes without harsh judgement. Understand that you are human and imperfection is part of your beauty.
Forgiveness is a gift you give to your Self. Holding onto past mistakes and regrets only weighs you down. Acknowledge your past, learn from it, and then release it. You cannot change what has already happened, but you can shape what is to come. By forgiving your Self, you free your Self from unnecessary guilt and emotional pain.
Take a moment to celebrate how far you’ve come
Every small victory and every giant leap deserves recognition. Write down your accomplishments and let your Self feel proud. You are constantly growing, and that deserves to be celebrated.
Speak to your Self with kindness and encouragement
Your words have power. Replace negative thoughts with positive affirmations. Remind your Self daily of your strengths, your unique worth, and your limitless potential.
Protect your wellbeing
Learn to say no without guilt. Prioritise your needs and make sure your energy is spent on things that bring you joy and fulfillment.
Boundaries are not walls; they are the framework within which you can thrive.
Eat nourishing foods, get enough sleep, exercise regularly, and take time for activities that bring you peace and joy. Whether it’s reading a book, writing, meditating, doing yoga, or spending time in Nature, find what rejuvenates you and make it a priority. Have a daily spiritual practice.
And remember - you don’t have to do everything alone
Reach out for support when you need it. Whether it’s talking to a friend, seeking professional help, or joining a community, surround yourself with understanding and supportive people who can make a significant difference in your journey towards Self-love and acceptance.
Keep choosing your Self, again and again. Understand that you are deserving of love, patience, and compassion. You have come a long way, and you have the strength to go even further. You haven't come this far just to come this far.
Be kind to your Self : You deserve it.
Namaste.
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