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Coaching is Not Remedial: It's Re-Miracle

Updated: Jan 25

There is a misconception around coaching: Some people in business circles see it as remedial: As though if someone has coaching it is because there is something wrong with them. This could not be further from the truth. This is a very much an outdated and incorrect understanding of what coaching is and can achieve. This misconception is the result of one thing - ego. It's ironic, as the most powerful effect of coaching is to drop your limiting ego and open you up to infinite possibility. What do world class athletes have in common? They have coaches. What do the revolutionaries and 'Yodas' of the business world have in common? They have coaches. They, like Einstein, William Shakespeare, Carl Jung, and Jesus, believe in miracles. You see my drift...


'The Matrix' where the wise Morpheus says to the hero Neo "I'm trying to free your mind, Neo. But I can only show you the door. You're the one that has to walk through it."


I had dinner recently with a friend who is a corporate lawyer, who is doing reasonably well, who told me defiantly that he 'didn't need coaching'. He said that if his colleagues didn't listen to him during meetings that he would shout at them until they came round to his way of thinking. I simply smiled, realising that his ego is a dominant part of his personality and that he is driven by a deep sense of lack and an inferiority complex. The frightened little boy in him is running his life. What possibility I could see in him if he were to deflate his ego and expand his soul! But he is not ready for his bud to open, yet. You can lead a horse to water but you can not make him drink from the river of infinite possibility. I let him speak, and he told me about his traumatic childhood and how his brother had had a drug overdose. I could see the similarities between him and his brother even if he couldn't see them himself. They were both driven by fear, lack, and scarcity. His addiction is work, which, like all addictions, may be ultimately deadly. It reminded me of the scene in the iconic film 'The Matrix' where the wise Morpheus says to the hero Neo "I'm trying to free your mind, Neo. But I can only show you the door. You're the one that has to walk through it." I can only show you the door, and the rest, albeit with guidance, is up to you.


All top class athletes have coaches. I remember watching a match between Rafael Nadal and a low seeded player a few years ago where Nadal was knocked out in the early rounds of Wimbledon. For that one match, his opponent wiped the turf with him. Why? Because for that one match Rafa's opponent believed that he could beat Nadal. And so he did. It's as simple as that. The highest levels of coaching - Deep Coaching, 'Supercoaching', and Transformative Life Coaching, which are all essentially the same thing, all have one thing in common: The coach sees your highest possibility until you see it yourself, freeing you from the shackles of the ego and liberating the hero in you.


True success in life is all about possibility. What is possible for you? What has been getting in the way of getting what you want? Are your fears and doubts holding you back? Do you have clarity on the negativity that surrounds and engulfs you? Peace and freedom come when you deeply realise that your life is your own. If you focus on the possibilities you will transcend your limitations.


Opening your mind to the limitless Universe will open the floodgates of miracles having your name written on them. As Jerry Falwell wrote “Whenever God has a great task, God raises up a man or woman of equal greatness for that task.” You are that person. You just don't realise it yet as you are asleep.


God is simply short for the nameless feeling, the limitless Universe, which can't be put into words. Joseph Campbell said "God is a metaphor for that which transcends all levels of intellectual thought. It's as simple as that."


There is an aphorism that states as an equation:

'Man minus mind = God.'


Invisible is not the same as imaginary. Faith is visionary. We are a dysfunctional, mentally ill, Dystopian society of the blind that lead the blind. We are all so confused about what true success really means. Success in life means to awaken: That is your primary purpose; and everything else flows from there.


Awakening is consciousness. It means waking up from the dream, or rather nightmare, of form. Your goals are limited because you are trying the change the people, events and things around you, which are made of form, as a survival need.


When you awaken, this frees your life from all of your perceived 'problems', and fills it instead with love, joy, gratitude, belief, an attitude of growth and learning, wisdom, and peace. Your past is your best asset, but you must let it go and keep only the lessons that it has brought you. This is your wisdom.


Emmet Fox, the spiritual leader and author of the book 'The Sermon on the Mount' wrote “A small spark can start a great fire.” You are that spark: You are that fire. But how do you do this? He continued “Your Heart's Desire is the Voice of God, and that Voice must be obeyed sooner or later.” Fox stated that we achieve our heart's desire through 'challenges':“Suppose your whole world seems to rock on its foundations. Hold on steadily, let it rock, and when the rocking is over, the picture will have reassembled itself into something much nearer to your heart's desire.” Fox added that “You are always in your right place at the (present) moment. If you don’t like it, change it scientifically by rising in consciousness. This will be permanent.”


Albert Einstein, one of the greatest minds of the modern era, wrote that “There are only two ways to live your life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as though everything is a miracle.” The first is how we live when we perceive the world through the lens of fear (the ego), and the second is when we perceive the world from a place of love (the higher Self or soul). So, you see, you don't need remedial work, you simply need a re-miracle vision.


Neville Goddard said “Man's chief delusion is his conviction that there are causes other than his own state of consciousness.” So, if your consciousness is a 6 out of 10 then you are limited to creating 6 out of 10 outcomes. But if you expanded your consciousness through infinite possibility then you will create from that place. That is true Mastery. This is how you achieve infinite personal power. You simply go higher and higher. William Blake, the poet and artist, wrote "What is now proved, was once only imagined."


The author of 'Alice in Wonderland', a sublime allegory for personal transformation, Lewis Caroll wrote "Sometimes I've believed as many as six impossible things before breakfast... It’s no use going back to yesterday, because I was a different person then." Morpheus (who serves as the Cheshire Cat) says to the hero Neo (who serves as Alice) in the iconic film 'The Matrix', which is full of references to philosophy, spirituality, and the literature, in reference to Alice in Wonderland "You take the blue pill - the story ends, you wake up in your bed and believe whatever you want to believe. You take the red pill - you stay in Wonderland and I show you how deep the rabbit hole goes." Both Neo and Alice are insatiably curious, preferring a better world where there are no rules, where they are free, and where anything is possible. Both Neo and Alice come to reject the fantasy world, favouring reality, though through different means and thoughts. Both narratives also follows the stages of the Hero's Journey, described by Joseph Campbell. The first reference to Alice in Wonderland from 'The Matrix' comes from Trinity telling Neo to “Follow the white rabbit”, to begin his transformative journey of self-discovery. Are you ready for yours?


Dale Carnegie, who wrote the classic transformative book 'How to Win Friends and Influence People, wrote "We all have possibilities we don't know about. We can do things we don't even dream we can do." Thomas Edison, who invented the light bulb, amongst many other things that revolutionised the industrialised world, said that "If we all did the things we are capable of doing, we would literally astound ourselves."


The Universe, not the sky, is the limit, and the Universe is infinite. You are the Universe and the Universe is in you. The Greek philosopher and polymath Aristotle said that "A likely impossibility is always preferable to an unconvincing possibility." The brilliant philosopher Friedrich Nietzsche wrote "A thought, even a possibility, can shatter and transform us." It may well be that you need to shatter before your pieces can come back together again in the way that you were made to be. As Rumi wrote "The wound is the place where the Light enters you."


The equation for what you may achieve, if you so desire, is very simple:


What you are capable of = Infinite possibility - Your perceived limitations


Your perceived limitations all come from your 'monkey mind,' the ego: Which is the terrified 7-year old you that the world never allowed to grow up. Perceived limitations are erroneous negative thoughts. Infinite possibility is the miracle that happens when you only entertain thoughts from the voice of your highest Self. A belief is an on-off switch for what’s possible.


Johann Wolfgang von Goethe wrote "I love those who yearn for the impossible." And we are legion; we just don't all take the journey that we were born for, and therefore don't wake up to who we are.


Charles Kettering wrote about the family that invented flight for human beings "The Wright brothers flew right through the smoke screen of impossibility." They simply believed in the possibility that they could create a machine that could fly: If Nature could do it, then so could they. And so they did.


George Bernard Shaw wrote "The possibilities are numerous once we decide to act (from our higher Self) and not react (our ego)." But we all react from our ego, immediately. We need to lean back and respond through action. When things seem very chaotic try and step back, meditate, and observe what is really going on rather than throwing yourself head first into every situation. Follow your intuition during meditation: It will always come, usually as a feeling, words or a sign. It's one of the most powerful things to experience and something which entirely guides me in the way I conduct myself on a daily basis.

 

St. Francis of Assisi, one of the most venerated figures in history, also wrote about possibility "Start by doing what's necessary; then do what's possible; and suddenly you are doing the impossible."


Mark Twain, the writer and entrepreneur, wrote "Apparently there is nothing that cannot happen today."


You are a limitless being who is only held back by your fears. In other words only your limiting beliefs hold you back. If you could drop these then what would remain, according to our equation above, is the you that you have only so far dreamed of: This is the space of possibility. Once you become fearless, you transcend your fears, then you and your life becomes limitless. You live from your soul.


'Fear' and 'Faith' are both are states of mind. Fear creates the darkest moments in our finest hour, while Faith brings the finest moments in our darkest hour.


As humans our deepest fears (by that I mean the fears beneath every one of your fears) are all the same:

  • That we are not worthy

  • That we will fail

  • That we are not loveable

  • That we are not loved

  • That we will be abandoned

  • That we will die

These seem to form a logical sequence. We were not born with these fears. Our parents, guardians, and society conditioned them into us. Why? Because they were unconscious. They had the same fears conditioned into them. But you are reading this as the highest version of you is still inside you, like it is in everyone. You just need to be reminded, in order to wake up.


As Dan Millman, the Olympian, author, and coach, wrote "Tell me what God feels like: I am starting to forget."


Herein lies the paradox: Who would you have to be to be able to imagine what your wildest dreams could entail? This sounds like an impossible paradox. Transformative Life Coaching (TLC) creates the space for you to be the person that you dream of being who could imagine what that life could look like. To tell you what you know deep inside you already: But it’s buried so deeply in fear that you can’t even hear that voice: The voice that speaks from the highest possible and most awakened version of you, the real you, your true Self, your soul. You can hear it can't you? And hearing that allows you to transcend your fears and wake up to who you really are, right now. You are so, so, so much more than a bunch of molecules.


Lord Alfred Tennyson, the poet, wrote "The shell must break before the bird can fly." TLC allows the eagle chick to see the eagle flying before it hatches, so that the chick then breaks out of its shell. No one can wake you up, fix you, make you go through the door, or break open your shell for you other than you. But you won't do it until you are shown the eagle that you already are, soaring high: Not until you remember who you are. That is my purpose, as your guide to help you to see the highest you, the eagle, until you see it your Self.


Abraham Maslow, the American psychologist who created Maslow's 'Hierarchy of Needs', a theory of psychological health predicated on fulfilling innate human needs in priority, culminating in self-actualisation and Enlightenment, wrote "One's only rival is one's own potentialities. One's only failure is failing to live up to one's own possibilities. In this sense, every man can be a king, and must therefore be treated like a king."


It's time for a gentle reminder and a pause to come back to your Self. In reality what is happening is that your doubt-driven actions no longer align to the intuitive wisdom, higher Truth and the way of BEing that you are trying to embody, and soon enough, you will fall to your knees exhausted and burned out by your futile efforts. It's what you have always done. It's what we all do.


This is where having a guide changes everything. As your Transformative Life Coach (TLC), I will help you to return you to balance. When the voice of doubt arises in you, along with all the angst it generates, my role as your Transformative Life Coach (TLC) is to create and hold space in which your voice of doubt can be heard, as it is. I will allow you plenty of room to decompress, to breathe, to feel and release your pent up emotion, remind you of who you truly are, and gently bring you back into connection with your infinite creative capacity, your Personal Power, your intuition, with the wisdom of your spiritual heart, with a higher flow of thought, from love instead of fear.


As Marianne Williamson wrote “Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, 'Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous?' Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing Enlightened about shrinking so that other people won't feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It's not just in some of us; it's in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.” William Forrester said in 'Finding Forrester' that "We walk away from our dreams afraid we may fail, or worse yet, afraid we may succeed."


In 'A Course in Miracles' it states that "The problem isn't that we ask for too much - the problem is we ask for too little." In the Bible in Matthew 7:7 it states “Ask, and it will be given to you; seek, and you will find; knock, and it will be opened to you. For everyone who asks receives, and the one who seeks finds, and to the one who knocks it will be opened." In John 14:13 "Whatever you ask in my name, this I will do." In John 15:7 "If you abide in me, and my words abide in you, ask whatever you wish, and it will be done for you." In James 1:5 "If any of you lacks wisdom, you should ask God, who gives generously to all without finding fault, and it will be given to you." In Mark 9:23 "‘If you can’?” said Jesus. 'Everything is possible for one who believes.'" Are you starting to believe in the Universe yet?


Henry David Thoreau wrote “If one advances confidently in the direction of his dreams, and endeavours to live the life which he has imagined, he will meet with a success unexpected in common hours." Are you ready?


Namaste.


Sending you love, light, and blessings brothers.


Olly



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