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Fate Versus Destiny

Updated: Mar 2

What is the difference between fate and destiny? How do they relate to the ego and to the soul?


Fate versus destiny
Fate versus destiny

Fate appears as whatever limits, restricts or even imprisons us; yet fate is the territory where we must go if we are to awaken to our inner destiny. Fate is predetermined. Destiny depends on your choices.


Destiny requires that your soul command your ego, not the other way round. Your ego cannot manage your soul, especially when it comes to your destiny. Destiny will not serve your ego. Call it our Buddha Nature, our genius, the Self, or the Soul, something beyond our ego exists as a governing principle that shapes the story we live out. It manifests in the twists and turns, struggles, possibilities, and opportunities for growth.


Fate and destiny differ in how they shape your life: The former is ruled by the ego; The latter by the soul. 


Crisis comes when the ego reaches its limits. That’s when the soul awakens. At this moment, our world stands at a crossroads between fate and destiny. Your destiny must be tied to the future of all humanity. This isn't about you—it's about how you serve others. Fate is a selfish choice; destiny is for everyone. That’s the difference. It is in giving that we receive.


How much would it change your life if you allowed your soul to take charge instead of your ego? It will allow you to reconnect with your natural state of joy, peace, love, and abundance. How willing are you to let your life transform? This marks a dramatic shift—one that could change everything about how you live. If your soul takes over, destiny unfolds in ways you can’t yet even imagine. That seed of discomfort (its uncomfortable at first as the ego resists as it senses its dissolution) you're feeling is a call to a higher service. It's a call to awaken to a new path, one where you feel the presence of God, calling you to serve the world. This is when you start living your dreams. Feel the fear and do it anyway. Suffering is the crucible of your transformation. This is the path from pain to peace. Love your fate, for it leads to your destiny.



All you can do is take responsibility for today. Trust the process. One day at a time. Simply take one step into the dark at a time. You will find a way that’s much more authentic and true to who you truly are. There are some things in life that we are not ready for. Within you there is something: When that activates and you stand up and take responsibility you will be healed. Do what you have to do. Don’t worry about the consequences. We find a way to be manageable around that. Take intuitive action. Step out of limbo. Let go of the results: Stop reacting to the dysfunction that is around you. We become creative actors, responders, not reactors. You will not be affected by the consequences. There is no place that God isn’t. You will be fine. You are stepping into your divine purpose. This is your spiritual awakening.


Life is our great teacher. We are most aware of this at big turning points in our lives, when a crisis arises that can’t be ignored, dismissed, or laughed off, when no simple or previous solution fits the remedy. At such times, old ideas, patterns, relationships, and jobs can feel depleted of relevance, requiring that we let go of the past and start anew. Decisions must be made, a path forward uncovered.


We often talk about being “Resigned to our fate” but “Seeking our destiny.” Fate may involve the earthly limitations of our ‘lot in life,’ but destiny, from the Latin, destinare, implies that we are also ‘of the stars.’ Destiny can mean ‘to stand out, to stand apart, ’ especially to be seen standing in a visible relation to one’s inner genius. Destiny involves an irreversible process of becoming from within. Radiate a singing soul. Everything will heal.


We are called to acknowledge the interplay of fate and destiny during life’s most perplexing moments when something beyond the rational seems to have laid its hand on us, often when life and death hang in the balance. Why did your house escape the tornado when all the houses on the block were destroyed? Storms come to clear your path. Why did you get stuck in traffic and miss the fire at your office? It is the fire that purifies. Why did you get the position when you weren't as credentialed as the other applicants? God had your back. When we look deeply into these questions, we uncover how the fateful event serves a deeper purpose threaded throughout our days. While we enter life with both limitations and unique talents, our destiny plays out in how we creatively incorporate these into the unfolding narrative of our lives.


To return to my own Truth, mental illness knocked me out of complacency, swept me out to sea, and deposited me on the shores of a new continent. It altered my sense of safety and security. An enormously important event had disrupted my world. The way I perceived life had been forever changed. This was my fate. My destiny involved honouring an inner voice that prompted me to go in search of healing, but I would have no map. This is why you need a guide. This is exactly what fairytales teach: To find the golden egg, to escape the ravenous monster, to reunite with our lost soul we must be extraordinarily courageous, abide with uncertainty, trust the helpers along the way, (instincts and intuitions are often represented in tales as helpful animals or humble elders), and most fervently bring our Faith and all our heart to the task. Fairytales are metaphors for the 'Hero's Journey' that we all must take if we want to truly live before we die. It is the hardest and yet the most rewarding thing you will ever do. This will lead to an inner knowing. This is the dissolution of the illusion and the death of the ego. This is the way. Welcome to the home of your soul. Allow your becoming as a leader: Leaders must serve life. This is the path of Self-realisation. This is how you invoke your 'God-Mode.'


We have all been living through a hard season of chaos, conflict, and disruption. Many of our assumptions about ourselves as a society and as a country have been shattered. The time is ripe for considering how the thread of our individual fate is interwoven with the destiny of the country and the planet.


Here are some prompts for beginning that exploration.

  1. Make a list of the major turning points in your life. (You can illustrate these questions with a brainstorming mind map to help you see the connections between turning points.)

  2. What do you think was being asked of you at each of these fateful moments?

  3. Were you required to make a decision?

  4. What was the result of your decision?

  5. Has action brought you further clarity of thought?

  6. What do you understand now about the situation that you did not understand previously?

  7. What pattern and toward what inner goal do you believe these events were leading you?

  8. What do you feel is still unresolved and perhaps waiting to unfold in your life story?


Bringing your full attention to these questions will prompt your psyche for a creative response. Pray and meditate on this. Watch and note your dreams as your answers take shape! This is the coming of Faith.


Namaste.


Sending you love, light, and blessings brothers.


Olly



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