As often quoted by the American presidential candidate Marianne Williamson from ‘A Course In Miracles’ it says "You can have a grievance or a miracle, but you cannot have both."
Holding a grievance is a way of keeping your personal Universe frozen. Continuing to attack someone else in your mind, because you are stuck in ego, you are attacking yourself. Why? Because there is only one of us here. So, when you think of people towards whom you hold grievances, your emotional salvation lies in letting it go. There is something profound about accepting things - and people - exactly as they are. It isn't condoning anything, it's simply allowing a power higher than your ego self heal the situation. Once we get to this place, then even if we need to hold a person or system accountable we do it in a different way. We're coming from a different place within ourselves.
Marianne Williamson from ‘A Course In Miracles’ "You can have a grievance or a miracle, but you cannot have both"
Everything we do is infused with the energy with which we do it. If we are judging people for the way they acted, we are wrong even if we think we are right. Only when we give up the judgement, can we be a conduit for a miraculous shift in the situation. The Universe is intentional, always bending in the direction of the next best thing, the miracle, the healing, the repairing of the wound, peace, and joy. But by holding grievances, we stop the action and stay stuck in the place where our supposed victimisation supersedes the possibility of a new beginning.
Forgiving others allows you to accept your Self exactly as you are right now. As it means that you don’t wish that they had been any different. Had they been different, so would have you as a result, as you would have missed the opportunities for growth.
Whoever it is towards whom you hold any level of grievance right now, consider that it's fine the way they are. At the deepest level, your pain doesn't come from them being the way they are but from you wanting them to be different. By judging them, you are judging yourself. You are attached to them. By releasing them, you are releasing your Self. Let it go. The Universe will handle this much better than you can. Simply surrender and watch the miracles unfold.
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