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How To Deal With Any Adversity

Updated: Jan 27

This is the ultimate question, right? Read this if you think that you have a problem. If you have a problem, there is in reality no problem. In this article, we will deal with how to face your 'problems', obtacles, and challenges, and how to overcome adversity. You think that you have a problem? No problem: Read on…


Mark Twain "Worrying is like paying a debt you don't owe"


When a ‘problem’ arises, don’t anticipate anything. Marcus Aurelius wrote that "Comfort is the worst addiction." We all flee from 'problems'. We crave comfort. Problems make us feel uncomfortable. Problems are just the part of you that loves you the most redirecting the course of your life in order to make you into the person that you were truly meant to be. That is where we grow most. It is in the darkest cave that the greatest treasure dwells.


Nothing has happened yet - keep handing it over. Let it go. Surrender. No amount of worrying will change the situation. It has been shown that 90 percent of our fears never come to pass. Don’t project - it won’t solve anything. Adversity will always strike, no matter how spiritually evolved you are. Hand it over to your Higher Power/God. You have no control over what other people do. It’s only how we respond that matters and that makes a difference. Simply pray and don’t let your head go for a walk. Hand it over. Today is the tomorrow that you worried about yesterday and yet all is well. Remember, as Alexander Pope wrote that "To err is human: To forgive, divine."


Acceptance

On 417 of the ‘Big Book' it states “And acceptance is the answer to all my problems today. When I am disturbed, it is because I find some person, place, thing, or situation - some fact of my life - unacceptable to me, and I can find no serenity until I accept that person, place, thing, or situation as being exactly the way it is supposed to be at this moment. Nothing, absolutely nothing, happens in God’s world by mistake… (Unless) I accept life completely on life’s terms, I cannot be happy. I need to concentrate not so much on what needs to be changed in the world as on what needs to be changed in me and in my attitudes.”


It has been said that insanity is thinking that you control the world - you don't: The Universe does. If you don't believe me, thats insanity.


You will be alright. All is well. This too shall pass. Make someone who will help you your Higher Power. You will be ok. Don’t let your head play with you. There is no problem - only in your head. Nothing has changed in your life, only your thinking.


Read this letter from God...


A letter from God


How else do you deal with adversity?


Remain present at all times. When facing a challenge - ask, from a place of presence, what would love do now? Sometimes that’s just bringing clarity. It's setting down the Truth, and voicing it. Sometimes it’s putting down a boundary. Follow the intuitive voice inside. Choose to come only from a place of your Higher Power. For it is a choice: It’s only your ego trying to tell you otherwise.


Nothing lasts forever. Always remember that this too shall pass. H. G. Wells wrote “If you fell down yesterday, stand up today.”


Remember that all is well and all shall be well.


Remain seated at your seat of ease

If you are ever faced with difficulty don't get up from your seat of ease. Stay seated. Remain a witness, an observer: Don't become a suspect.


Go to your connections/fellowship/trusted Enlightened Witnesses

Surround your Self with a herd of loving fellows. Dudley Martineau wrote "We are giving birth to ourselves (our saviour). Let's be midwives to one another through this difficult, yet exhilarating, process."


Ask for help

Sometimes you need to make someone else your Higher Power, in order to negotiate difficulties. Hand it over to your own Higher Power or that of someone else's.


Respond don’t react

Never react - that's just knee-jerk ego talk, which is small-minded and you will regret it. Take the time to respond from a place of presence.


Be patient

Be patient when you're becoming someone you haven't been before.


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The serenity prayer

This is as follows:

"God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference."


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A lot of adversity will be of our own making and so it will stop happening once we are whole and well.


Simplify and bring clarity


Help others as it gets you out of your head


Our mind catastrophises and awfulises - reach out and ask for help

Unhook your mind from fear.


'The Golden Key' by Emmet Fox

This is gold...


God, being energy and everywhere evenly present is all seeing, all knowing and all powerful, God is love and joy, health and happiness, abundance and glory and He (It) made man in His (It’s) image and likeness. All that is true of God is also true of each and every one of us. If God is health so are you, if God is life eternal it stands to reason that you must also be life eternal. Jesus taught that the Kingdom of Heaven was within us, all of us, simply awaiting our recognition of it. Whoever you are, whatever you have done or not done you are worthy simply by being made the image and likeness of God.


God, Emmet taught, is continually showering us with blessings and the only thing that prevents us from receiving them is our negative belief systems. The Golden Key is within you and use of it opens you up to all the goodness that is yours by Divine right. This is because in scientific prayer it is God who works, and not you, and so your particular limitations or weaknesses are of no account in the process. You are only the channel through which the Divine action takes place, and your treatment will really be just the getting of yourself out of the way. Beginners often get startling results at the first time of trying, for all that is absolutely essential is to have an open mind, and sufficient Faith to try the experiment. Apart from that, you may hold any views on religion, or none.


As for the actual method of working, like all fundamental things, it is simplicity itself.

All that you have to do is this: Stop thinking about the difficulty, whatever it is, and think about God instead. This is the complete rule, and if only you will do this, the trouble, whatever it is, will presently disappear. It makes no difference what kind of trouble it is. It may be a big thing or a little thing; it may concern health, finance, a law-suit, a quarrel, an accident, or anything else conceivable; but whatever it is, just stop thinking about it, and think of God instead - that is all you have to do. The thing could not be simpler, could it? God Himself could scarcely have made it simpler, and yet it never fails to work when given a fair trial.


Do not try to form a picture of God, which is, of course, impossible. Work by rehearsing anything or everything that you know about God. God is Wisdom, Truth, inconceivable Love. God is present every-where; has infinite power; knows everything; and so on. It matters not how well you may think you understand these things; go over them repeatedly. But you must stop thinking of the trouble, whatever it is. The rule is to think about God, and if you are thinking about your difficulty you are not thinking about God. To be continually glancing over your shoulder, as it were, in order to see how matters are progressing, is fatal, because that is thinking of the trouble, and you must think of God, and of nothing else.

Your object is to drive the thought of the difficulty right out of your consciousness, for a few moments at least, substituting for it the thought of God. This is the crux of the whole thing. If you can become so absorbed in this consideration of the spiritual world that you really forget for a while all about the trouble concerning which you began to pray, you will presently find that you are safely and comfortably out of your difficulty that your demonstration is made.


In order to "Golden Key" a troublesome person or a difficult situation, think, "Now I am going to 'Golden Key' John, or Mary, or that threatened danger"; then proceed to drive all thought of John, or Mary, or the danger right out of your mind, replacing it by the thought of God. By working in this way about a person, you are not seeking to influence his conduct in any way, except that you prevent him from injuring or annoying you, and you do him nothing but good. Thereafter he is certain to be in some degree a better, wiser, and more spiritual person, just because you have "Golden Keyed" him. A pending lawsuit or other difficulty would probably fade out harmlessly without coming to a crisis, justice being done to all parties concerned.


If you find that you can do this very quickly, you may repeat the operation several times a day with intervals between. Be sure, however, each time you have done it, that you drop all thought of the matter until the next time. This is important.


We have said that the Golden Key is simple, and so it is, but, of course, it is not always easy to turn. If you are very frightened or worried it may be difficult, at first, to get your thoughts away from material things.


But by constantly repeating some statement of absolute Truth that appeals to you, such as "There is no power but God", or "I am the child of God, filled and surrounded by the perfect peace of God", or "God is Love", or "God is guiding me now", or, perhaps best and simplest of all, just "God is with me" - however mechanical or dead it may seem at first - you will soon find that the treatment has begun to "take," and that your mind is clearing. Do not struggle violently; be quiet but insistent. Each time that you find your attention wandering, just switch it straight back to God.


Do not try to think out in advance what the solution of your difficulty will probably turn out to be. This is technically called "outlining," and will only delay the demonstration. Leave the question of ways and means strictly to God. You want to get out of your difficulty - that is sufficient. You do your half, and God will never fail to do His.


As it says in Romans 10:13 "Whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved."


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Speak in such a way that others love to listen to you: Listen in such a way that others love to speak to you.


George Bernard Shaw wrote that “Progress is impossible without change, and those who cannot change their minds cannot change anything.” Are you ready to change your mind?


Namaste.


Sending you love, light, and blessings brothers.


Olly



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