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Let Them

Updated: Jan 25

'The Let Them Theory' by Mel Robbins, which is in my 'Suggested Reading List' is a step-by-step guide on how to stop letting other people's opinions, drama, and judgement impact your life.


Two simple words, "Let Them", will set you free from the exhausting cycle of trying to manage everything and everyone around you. It’s time to build a life where you come first—your dreams, your peace, your joy.


Are you familiar with the “Let Them” theory? The more I grow the more I am okay with accepting the “Let Them” in my own life and relationships. This is something that took me a very long time to learn.


I used to tolerate a lot because I didn't want to lose people, be abandoned, I wanted to 'fix people', or I wanted to 'people-please.' But I learned the hard way if they were really my people they would never treat me like that.


Don't make the mistake of being so understanding and forgiving that you overlook the fact that you're being repeatedly disrespected and abused.


'Let Them' by Mel Robbins:


Let them be upset.

Let them judge you.

Let them misunderstand you.

Let them gossip about you,

Let them ignore you.

Let them be miserable.

Let them be full of hatred.

Let them be "right" in their little world.

Let them doubt you.

Let them not like you.

Let them not speak to you.

Let them run your name in the ground.

Let them ruin themselves.

Let them make you out to be the villain when they are the persecutor.

Whatever it is that people want to say about you, let them!

Kindly step aside and LET THEM.


The hard truth is they know how much they are hurting you. And they just simply don't care. Or they are doing it deliberately to hurt you. They did it knowing it could cause them to lose you. And they did it anyway. People who truly love you care about how they make you feel. They accept you exactly as you are. The end. Let the others go.


There will be people who would rather lose you than be honest about what they've done to you. Let them go.


The lack of respect was the closure. The lack of apology was the closure. The lack of care was the closure. The lack of acountability was the closure. The lack of honesty was the closure. The deviousness was the closure. The malevolence was the closure. Let them go.


Access to you is a privilege they have proven they can’t be trusted with. Don't give them any access to you. Let them go.


What if the key to joy, success, and love really was as simple as two words? If you've ever felt stuck, overwhelmed, or frustrated with where you are, the problem isn't you. The problem is the power you give to other people. Two simple words—Let Them—will set you free. Free from the exhausting cycle of trying to manage everything and everyone around you. 'The Let Them Theory' puts the power to create a life you love back in your hands—and this book will show you exactly how to do it.


In her latest groundbreaking book, 'The Let Them Theory', Mel Robbins—New York Times Bestselling Author and one of the world's most respected experts on motivation, confidence, and mindset—teaches you how to stop wasting energy on what you can't control and start focusing on what truly matters: YOU. Your joy. Your possibility. Your life.

Using the same no-nonsense, science-backed approach that's made The Mel Robbins Podcast a global sensation, Robbins explains why 'The Let Them Theory' is already loved by millions and how you can apply it in eight key areas of your life to make the biggest impact. Within a few pages, you'll realise how much energy and time you've been wasting trying to control the wrong things—at work, in relationships, and in pursuing your goals—and how this is keeping you from the joy and success you deserve.


Written as an easy-to-understand guide, Robbins shares relatable stories from her own life, highlights key takeaways, relevant research and introduces you to world-renowned experts in psychology, neuroscience, relationships, happiness, and ancient wisdom who champion 'The Let Them Theory' every step of the way.


Learn how to:


'The Let Them Theory' will forever change the way you think about relationships, control, and Real Personal Power. Whether you want to advance your career, motivate others to change, take creative risks, find deeper connections, build better habits, start a new chapter, or simply create more joy in your life and relationships, this book gives you the mindset and tools to unlock your full potential.


It’s taken me a long time to get here. Sleepless nights, countless tears, managing a range of emotions filled with anger, disappointment, confusion and deep hurt. Lots of self reflection, self-preservation, deep prayer and seeking wisdom from those much wiser than me.


If you are struggling with this please know you are not alone.  We will never understand why hurt people hurt people. But we can do the hard work to grow ourselves. We can keep our side of the street clean. Healed people do in fact heal people. Transformed people transform people.


Don’t you dare let them steal your joy.

Don’t you dare let them steal your light.

Don’t you dare let them steal your peace.

Don't you dare let them steal your love.

You are in control of all of that.


How frequently we see a frightened human being determined to depend completely upon a stronger person for guidance and protection. This weak one, failing to meet life's responsibilities with his or her own resources, never grows up. Disillusionment and helplessness are his or her lot. In time all his or her protectors either flee or die, and he or she is once more left alone, feeling afraid, useless, and full of self-loathing. The only antidote to this would have been service to others, which they never chose. But that's not your problem.


Hold tight to what you can control and release your grip on what you can’t control.


The first half of the equation is 'Let them.' The second half is where you take control.



Namaste.


Sending you love, light, and blessings brothers.


Olly

Dr Olly Alexander Branford MBBS, MA(Cantab), PhD.

Fully qualified and certified coach


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