top of page
Search

Non-Resistance To What Is

Updated: Jan 27

Non-resistance is acceptance of what is, which brings space and the transcendance of conditioning (how our dysfunctional society shapes us). Accept everything: Acceptance of the 'isness of the present moment' is the key to peace. Eckart Tolle wrote "When you say "yes" to the "isness" of life, when you accept this present moment as it is, you can feel a sense of spaciousness within you that is deeply peaceful."


Non-resistance is vital because as long as you are in resistance to the present moment, you will be trapped in the little egoic will: 'The King Baby'. The egoic will needs to subside: That’s surrendering to the present moment, and surrendering to what is. When you align yourself with what is internally, it looks at first almost like a position of weakness, and it can be misinterpreted as something that prevents you from taking effective action. But the acceptance of what is, is totally compatible with responding to whatever the present moment requires. Whatever wants to be created, manifested, done, at this moment: To be aligned with that, you need to first accept whatever form this present moment takes. If you are stuck in the mud somewhere, you don’t say, “Okay, I am in the mud, I have to accept it, and here I am: I’m not taking any action because I have to accept what is”. This moment is already always as it is, and there’s nothing you can do about that. That’s what you accept. Then, action that arises has a different energy to it. The will that flows into what you do is no longer egoic.


Acceptance simply means facing reality as it is.


Eckhart Tolle said that "Non-resistance, non-judgement, and non-attachment are the three aspects of true freedom and enlightened living."


Eckhart Tolle said that "Non-resistance, non-judgement, and non-attachment are the three aspects of true freedom and enlightened living."


When you have not accepted this present moment, the will (the ego) goes against the Universe: That is what the ego does. It is negative, it fights something that it says shouldn’t be there. If you use negativity, you are trapped in ego. Fear and negativity are the language of the ego. You can never win in a tug-of-war against the Universe. The only way to win is to let go. The “little will” has to subside for the more powerful will to flow through and deal with the situation. It creates, it is not isolated from the totality. It is one with the totality. When that operates, another word for that Universal will is intelligence, love, or God. It’s only when you look at a situation, completely accept the 'is-ness' of this moment, and then of course action may be required. Once the opening is there, through acceptance, the next step that you take will be much more powerful.


There’s a Buddhist term “right action”, that can only arise out of the right state of consciousness. You have to get out of the ego first before you can have right action. The Buddha was talking about that which flows from the awakened state of consciousness. To surrender the little will is to say ‘yes’ to the present moment. It’s not a big thing, just say yes to what is – because it already is anyway. Why complain about something that is? It’s insane, but normal.


With the simple act of surrender to the inevitability of the present moment, another energy comes. You could call that Universal will, you could call that intelligence, you could call that the creative solution to whatever the so-called “problem” is. You could call on that power that is coming in, that is greater than the limited power of your mind. Or it may use your mind, and suddenly you say the right thing, if that’s what the situation requires. Suddenly the words come: Where do the words come from? You don’t know what you’re going to say next. The words come from a deeper level. It all starts with the present moment, and your relationship with the present moment. Friend or enemy? All will be clear. Are you allowing it, or are you fighting it, resisting it? That’s the end of ego – because the ego needs resistance. The ego survives through complaining, it survives through denying, or wanting something else. The present moment is the teacher. Work with that – that’s all you need, really. That’s the end of the “little will”, which isn’t all that powerful anyway. Whatever it creates, creates more problems. It seems so simple, and it is simple. And yet, because of the many thousands of years of habit-patterns, often people say “It’s so difficult to be in the present moment and allow it to be”. Of course, the opposite is true. Life becomes difficult if you don’t. What you accept is the form of this moment. No more. Then, see what’s needed. You are not truly intelligent until that happens. Sometimes holding that space of simple presence activates other factors that then come in, seemingly, from the outside to change the situation. You have activated the intelligence of the totality: Of the Universe.


That is why people speak of synchronistic things happening (Carl Gustav Jung won a joint Nobel Prize with Wolfgang Pauli for his work on synchronicity): Suddenly a helpful factor comes in, suddenly the right person appears, the right thing happens. Almost miraculous when you don’t know that it’s natural, it seems like a miracle at first because most humans are not used to that. In contemporary research, synchronicity experiences refer to one's subjective experience whereby coincidences between events in one's mind and the outside world may be causally unrelated to each other; and yet have some other unknown connection.


When you hold presence, sometimes the change may not happen through your action. There are many situations where action at this moment is not possible. Sometimes there’s nothing you can do, however you can continue to be present. Then, a greater intelligence is activated. Very often you will find change happening in the situation. This greater intelligence is not the conceptual intelligence that you can measure with IQ tests. It is non-conceptual intelligence. Conceptual intelligence is the ability to retain information, analyse, compare, and so forth. It’s a tiny fragment of what intelligence is. There is a vastness of non-conceptual intelligence. This is wisdom. Our destiny is to live that way, so that our whole life is to become a work of art. Don't just be confined to that state of consciousness when you do your creative work: Apply it to all that you do.


Any creative thing has a spark, an aliveness, a quality, a newness, a freshness. You connect with non-conceptual intelligence in the alert Stillness within. Psalm 46:10 says “Be still, and know that I am God." Everybody has that, as their essence. That is true intelligence. To what extent you are connected with that could not possibly be measured through any IQ test. Ultimately, you cannot measure creativity or wisdom.


Very often, the form of the present moment seems like a limitation on your life, something that is impinging on your freedom. The body could become ill, you may find it hard to move. When something drastic happens, if you can learn to accept it, a little bit of spaciousness comes into your life. You say, “This is what is”. A little bit of space just opened up, and you’re no longer just a resisting entity. Then, you realise that you are essentially formless space. In other words, you find inner peace.


At first it is very gentle in the background, in the midst of any situation. That peace is powerful. It can become so powerful, that is obliterates almost anything. Peace is the formless in you. By accepting the form, the formless within you opens up. This is how something seemingly bad – a limitation or a recent 'adverse event' – becomes an opening for realisation of who you truly are. You and the Universe become one, and as such it creates through you as this form. That’s the beauty of it. When the unmanifested flows into this world, it assumes form. Most thoughts that people have in the unawakened state are repetitive old thoughts, conditioned thinking, conditioned by the past, in the form of fear. All you can rely on then is what you have accumulated in the past, you deal with things through conditioned thinking.


On page 417 of the 'Big Book' it states that “And acceptance is the answer to all my problems today. When I am disturbed, it is because I find some person, place, thing, or situation - some fact of my life - unacceptable to me, and I can find no serenity until I accept that person, place, thing, or situation as being exactly the way it is supposed to be at this moment. Nothing, absolutely nothing, happens in God’s world by mistake... Unless I accept life completely on life’s terms, I cannot be happy. I need to concentrate not so much on what needs to be changed in the world as on what needs to be changed in me and in my attitudes.”


When the simple act of surrender opens your mind, it can then be used as an instrument. Then, a thought may come in that is original and fresh and new. That is the birth of form. The birth of thought creates the birth of form. The Universe uses you as a vehicle or a channel through which to create. t can use your mind, and become thought, words, and physical things. That’s the way in which the mind can actually be a helpful tool – alignment with the greater Intelligence, the One Consciousness.


Speak in such a way that others love to listen to you: Listen in such a way that others love to speak to you.


George Bernard Shaw wrote that “Progress is impossible without change, and those who cannot change their minds cannot change anything.” Are you ready to change your mind?


Namaste.


Sending you love, light, and blessings brothers.


Olly



Email me: 





Hello,

I am delighted and enchanted to meet you. I coach men with 'Deep Coaching', 'Supercoaching', and Transformative Life Coaching (TLC). Thank you for reading this far. I very much look forward to connecting with the highest version of you, to seeing your highest possibility, and to our conversations. Please do contact me via my email for a free connection call and a free experience of coaching on Zoom or in person. 


“Transformative life coaching uniquely creates and holds the space for you to see your self afresh, with clarity, and step into new ways of BEing, which will transform how you perceive and intuitively create your world. My work is to guide you to raise your own conscious awareness to the level that you want to achieve.”







Click here for the books that I know will help you along your journey of recovering your Self:









I have a Bachelor's degree in Natural Sciences from Trinity College, Cambridge; a Master's Degree in Philosophy from Trinity College, Cambridge; a PhD Doctorate in Scientific Research from University College London (UCL); a Medical Degree (MD/MBBS) from The Royal Free Hospital School of Medicine, London and have been a doctor and reconstructive trauma and cancer surgeon in London for 20 years. I have a number of other higher qualifications in science and surgery. I have published over 50 peer reviewed PubMed cited scientific journal articles, have been an associate editor and frequent scientific faculty member, and am the author of several scientific books. I have been awarded my Diploma in Transformative Life Coaching in London, which has International Coaching Federation (ICF) Accreditation, as well as the UK Association for Coaching (AC), and the European Mentoring and Coaching Council (EMCC). I have been on my own transformative journey full time for over five years and I am ready to be your guide to you finding out who you really are and how the world works.




Please let me know if you would like to join our 'VOICE for men' VIP community: 'Vulnerability & Openness Is a Choice Ensemble', 'Visibility Is Power', where men can find their strength, courage, and authenticity, by dropping their egocentric fears and instead communicate openly with vulnerability. We are co-creating this space. It will change your life. It will empower you. This community is a safe space for men to connect and discuss philosophy, spirituality, positive psychology, awakening to Self-realisation, wisdom and timeless Truths, to share our experience, strength and hope, and to find solutions to our pain and fears. Our meeting is free to join. There is no script, just sharing.

 
 
 

Comments

bottom of page