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Peace With The Past

Updated: Jan 25

Agathon said "Even God cannot change the past." That is very true, of course.


Are you trying to change the past or are you letting it control you? Or both?


Socrates said "The secret of change is to focus all of your energy, not on fighting the old, but on building the new."


The past


The past is just the view behind me. If I keep looking at that view I will crash into something in front of me.


Let go of the past or be dragged by it. Is your past like a dark cloud, following you around? Are you scared to let go? You need to close the door to it, and just keep the lessons learned from it. You need to let go of any feelings you still have about the past, especially anger.


Holding on to the past, either through guilt, longing, denial, or resentment, is a waste of valuable energy – energy that can be used to transform today and therefore tomorrow. Stop regretting, and start being grateful. Look at your past with compassion for your Self, trusting that your Higher Power was in control, even then.


Remember: You have healed from some of the worst things that happened to you. You have made peace with your Self about these issues, and you have learned that healing from some of these issues has enabled you to help others to heal too. You are able to see how the worst things helped form your character. You have even developed gratitude for your failed relationships because they have brought you to who and where you are today.


Maybe you're not healing because your're trying to be who you were before the trauma. That person doesn't exist any more, because there's a new you trying to be born: Breathe life into that person. Invite your Self into the discovery of your own magnificence and create the life of your dreams.


We cannot control the past. But we can transform it by allowing ourselves to learn and heal from it, owning our power, and by accepting it with love for others and ourselves.


Listen to your own voice, your own soul. Too many people listen to the noise of the world, instead of themselves. You are divinely supported always in all ways. You are EXACTLY where you need to be. You are God's greatest miracle made manifest. Healing is remembering this. And then living from this place of peace and joy and union within. This is how you serve all of creation. By Being Who You Are. Simple.


It is the part of us that loves us the most that sends us challenges to redirect the course of our lives and who we are BEing.


When I try to describe the truth of my life right now - I use a corridor metaphor - the door behind me is closed to trauma, failures, fear, and ego. I am only taking the lessons. I have swallowed the key to the door behind me. The door ahead is wide open. I remember Revelation 3:8: “I know your works. See, I have set before you an open door, and no one can shut it; for you have a little strength, have kept My word, and have not denied My name." Ahead lies belief, Faith, and seeking God. You don’t have to open the door ahead of you: It is already wide open and waiting for you.


Anthony de Mello wrote that "Pleasant experiences make life delightful. Painful experiences lead to growth."


Dr Wayne Dyer wrote "Peace is the result of retraining your mind to process life as it is, rather than as you think it should be."


Brendon Burchard wrote "You've been through enough. You are enough. Now live your own life. Now lead without apology."


It is our ego that gets in the way of our peacefulness. When we rely on our Higher Power our anxieties leave us. I will be at peace if I let God take the lead in my life today.


When thinking about life remember this: No amount of guilt can solve our past and no amount of anxiety can change our future. We only have NOW - it’s a GIFT, that's why it's called the PRESENT.


You just need to learn to let go. The best thing about the past is that it is over.


I see you, I hear you, I see the divine in you.


Speak in such a way that others love to listen to you: Listen in such a way that others love to speak to you.


Namaste.


Sending you love, light, and blessings brothers.


Olly



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