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Storms Come To Clear Your Path

Updated: Jan 25

Does life feel overwhelming at times? Do things happen that seem out of your control? Do you wish you could somehow change or make peace with your past?


Not all storms come to disrupt your life, some come to clear your path. Sometimes, we are tested. Not to show our weaknesses, but to discover our strengths. These tests help us mature spiritually. 


Eckhart Tolle wrote that "Life will give you whatever experience is most helpful for the evolution of your consciousness. How do you know this is the experience you need? Because this is the experience you are having at this moment."


Remember that today is the tomorrow that you worried about yesterday. Serenity comes when you trade expectations for acceptance and not resisting what is.


Whatever is showing up in your current experience is meant to be there or it wouldn’t be. God doesn't roll dice. Everything is happening just as it's meant to be. It's the part of you that loves you the most that sends you obstacles and challenges in order to teach you lessons that will direct the course of your life for you to live your true purpose: To give you a life with meaning.


What other people think of you is none of your business. You are not anyone else’s doormat.


Not all storms come to disrupt your life, some come to clear your path: Ride that wave...


God didn’t save you in the ocean in order to drown you on the shore. You didn't come this far just to come this far. Take the bridge of reason to reach the shore of Faith. Father Richard Rohr wrote that "The opposite of Faith is not doubt: The opposite of Faith is control."


I know your story, because it is my story: It's everyone's story. It's the human condition.


Stop controlling, open your heart, and begin receiving. Remain in the present, hand things over, ask your Higher Power for help as your fears are not happening now - it’s all ‘mental masturbation’ and none of it might happen - there are a million possible outcomes and no-one can predict the future.


Worrying is like a rocking chair - it’s very ‘entertaining’ but gets you nowhere. The only thing that is going on is in your head. When outcomes are not in our hands then we hand them over. 90% of the things we fear never come to pass. And for the 10% that do they are not as bad as we expected and we can always handle them. If you are feeling restless it’s because you have a spiritual need or dis-ease, which has a spiritual solution.


Your anxiety is the distance between you and God. You need to trust the process. Trust that everything will be ok even if it’s not the way you want it to be. This requires Faith, non-resistance, and acceptance. As soon as something triggers you phone someone immediately - nothing has actually happened. Get out of your head: It’s a dangerous neighbourhood - you are going to get mugged. Trust the process and be patient - wait for Nature to heal you. Let go.


Through awareness, acceptance and a conscious choice to change your perception, you can move from a victim mindset to a victor mindset.


Life is happening for you, not to you. You can deal with any adversity.


Everyone and everything that presents itself to you is useful, meaningful and it is meant to be. 


You may feel that you are not attracting everything you want, but find peace that life is presenting you with everything you need. 


Find the lessons. Cherish the blessings. Embrace the journey. Everything is your teacher. If you can’t change a situation, change the perception of it. Remember, most of our stress comes from the way we respond, not the way life is.


Sometimes it’s better to just let things be, let go of your need to control and your expectations of how you think things should be. Life is better lived when you don’t centre it on what’s happening around you and centre it on what’s happening inside you instead. 


The journey is not the end in itself, neither is your destination. The goal of your journey is who you become. Your success is entirely dependent on who you are BEing. No one is ahead of you or behind you. Thich Nhat Hanh wrote that "We are all leaves of one tree. We are all waves of one sea." In fact you are the ocean, like everyone else. The waves are the daily froth of disturbances. They have no power in relation to the ocean. Ego means separation from others and your Higher Power.


You are exactly where you are meant to be. Work on your Self and your inner peace and joy. Your life becomes a masterpiece when you learn to master peace. You don’t always need a plan, you just need to breathe, slow down, trust, let go and see what happens. Have only thoughts that are of your Higher Power. Let go of your negative beliefs. They are all that is holding you back from a life of true abundance. Don't react: Pause and then respond if necessary.


Your are a conscious creator supporting healing - your own and that of others. True success is measured by the impact that you have on others. 


If your heart is right, your world will be right. The beginning of all reform must be in your Self. It's not what happens to you. It's how you take it. However restricted your circumstances, however little you may be able to remedy financial affairs, you can always turn to your inward Self and see something not in order there, seek to right it. As all reform is from within outward, you will always find that the outward is improved as the inward is improved.  As you improve your Self, your outward circumstances will change for the better: I guarantee you this. The power released from within your Self will change your outward life. The best and most beautiful things in the world can not be seen or even touched - they must be felt with the heart.


If we can’t change a situation, change the perception of it. Remember, most of our stress comes from the way we respond, not the way life is.


We are not meant to stay wounded. We are supposed to move through our tragedies and challenges and help each other move through any painful episodes of our lives. 


By remaining stuck in the power of our wounds, we block our own transformation. We overlook the greater gifts inherent in our wounds - the strength to overcome them and the lessons we are meant to receive through them. Wounds are the means through which we enter the hearts of other people. Wounds are our wisdom. They are meant to teach us to be compassionate and wise. Who looks outside dreams, who looks inside, awakes.


Maya Angelou said "Forgive your Self for not knowing what you didn't know before you learned it."


We are here to heal, not harm. We are here to love, not hate. We are here to create, not destroy.


Feeling is the language of the soul. The deepest feeling is your highest Truth. 


For me recovery can be simplified as the journey from egocentric fear and reactivity to responding from an open, honest, willing, and vulnerable divine place.


Serenity for me is a place of peace and presence where we don’t stand up to join the conflict. When a decision needs to be made I ask what would love do now, or what would God want me to do now, or what would my Higher Power want me to do now?


Through repeated surrender and letting go, you will be victorious. Surrender means to stop judging your Self and to feel your emotions fully and then giving them over to the Higher Power of your understanding. Feeling is healing. The greatest step toward a life of joy, serenity, & simplicity is to let go & keep life as simple as possible. Trust in the power that is already taking care of you. Be gentle with your Self.



Namaste.


Sending you love, light, and blessings brothers.


Olly



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