Walking Through The Fire
- olivierbranford
- May 15, 2024
- 8 min read
Updated: Jan 28
Carl Jung was a prominent psychiatrist and psychoanalyst, and also a spiritual Master, who had much to say about the human psyche. He made a powerful observation about how to live a good life “The difference between a good life and a bad life is how well you walk through the fire.” In Jungian psychology, fire represents anxieties, losses, grief, hidden consciousness, and existential crises that threaten to consume us.
Walking through the fire
The shadow side of life, the secret parts of ourselves and the world, can be both terrifying and transformative. Jung believed the human psyche wants wholeness, an integration between the conscious ego and the unconscious shadow. However, the shadow is not inherently evil. But repressed emotions, desires, and instincts left unexamined, can erupt like wildfires, consuming us in their wake.
Jung likened the process of shadow work to confronting a dragon. The dragon, a common archetypal symbol, often represents our untamed, destructive aspects. However, slaying the dragon is not the goal. The aim is to integrate its power and channel its fiery energy into something constructive for your highest life. That might involve expressing repressed emotions in a healthy way, harnessing assertively expressed anger for positive change, or finding creative outlets for destructive urges.
Unprocessed emotions, unresolved traumas, and the raw pain of loss are the sources of our inner struggles. Our emotional or unconscious selves can overwhelm us, creating a constant state of misery that saps our energy and leaves us feeling burnt out.
Fire is also a source of light and transformation. Jung believed confronting our unconscious selves and repressed emotions, symbolised by fire, is vital for becoming whole. Experiences of grief and loss, though painful, can force us to re-evaluate our priorities and find deeper meaning in life. Just as a controlled fire is a source of warmth, facing our inner demons can light the path towards our highest lives.
A “good life,” then, is not the absence of fire.
It’s a conscious choice to walk through it, to confront these challenges head-on. To successfully walk through fire, you must first understand Jung’s concept of individuation - the process of integrating your conscious and unconscious Self.
Carl Jung said that “Individuation is a process of transformation whereby the personal and collective unconscious are brought into consciousness (e.g., by means of dreams, active imagination, or free association) to be assimilated into the whole personality. It is a completely natural process necessary for the integration of the psyche… Individuation has a holistic healing effect on the person, both mentally and physically.”
Jung argued that the aim of the individuation “Is nothing less than to divest the Self of the false wrappings of the persona (the ego), on the one hand, and assimilate the `gold in Shadow’ on the other.”
But first, we need to confront our shadow.
Jung believed the shadow held our repressed desires, fears, and instincts. Ignoring it allows these aspects to fester and control us. Acknowledging and integrating the shadow helps us gain a complete picture of ourselves and the strength to face the flames of life.
“Unfortunately, there can be no doubt that man is, on the whole, less good than he imagines himself or wants to be. Everyone carries a shadow, and the less it is embodied in the individual’s conscious life, the blacker and denser it is. If an inferiority is conscious, one always has a chance to correct it. Furthermore, it is constantly in contact with other interests, so that it is continually subjected to modifications. But if it is repressed and isolated from consciousness, it never gets corrected.” — Carl Jung, Psychology and Religion (1938)
As we confront the “fire” within and without, we integrate the shadow, reconcile with our darker aspects, and discover a complete sense of Self. But wholeness isn’t about achieving a state of flawlessness. It’s a total acceptance of our BEing - the light, shadow, triumphs, and scars. While painful reminders of past struggles, these scars also hold a haunting beauty. They are a testament to our capacity for learning, growth and transformation. The emotional wounds become not a burden, but a source of strength, a reminder of the fires we’ve walked through and emerged stronger from.
According to Jung, the “bad life” is succumbing to the flames of life.
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It’s the life of unconsciousness, where our ego, our anxieties, and our shadow rule us. What brings out the worst in us controls us. We become passive observers in our own lives, letting the fire dictate our path. A bad life can manifest as addiction, bitterness, hatred, or simply a lack of purpose, all symptoms of failing to confront the internal and external challenges of our lives. The bad life path leads to a fragmented psyche, a life unlived in its full potential.
“Man has to realise that he possesses a shadow which is the dark side of his own personality; he is being compelled to recognise his “Inferior function”, if only for the reason that he is so often overwhelmed by it, with the result that the light world of his conscious mind and his ethical values succumb to an invasion by the dark side. The whole suffering brought upon man by his experience of the inherent evil in his own nature - the whole immeasurable problem of “original sin”, in fact - threatens to annihilate the individual in a welter of anxiety and feelings of guilt.” (Depth Psychology and a New Ethic, Erich Neumann)
But facing our shadows takes a lot of work.
Jung understood that the fire can be overwhelming. This is where another Jungian concept, the transcendent function, becomes crucial. A psychological process that acts as a bridge between the conscious and unconscious, allowing us to find meaning in suffering without getting consumed. Anger, for example, can be channelled into assertive communication or productive action.
It acts as mediation between the rational Self and the shadow’s fiery emotions. It’s how we understand our fears, frustrations, and unresolved conflicts that make us miserable. Integrating the lessons learned from the fire can help us emerge more resilient and understand ourselves better.
Through creative expression or healthy expressions, we can channel the raw emotions of the fire into a form of expression that allows us to process and integrate them. We don’t just endure the suffering; we find meaning in it, creating personal stories that help us understand ourselves on a deeper level.
“If there is a meaning in life at all, then there must be a meaning in suffering. Suffering is an ineradicable part of life, even as fate and death. Without suffering and death human life cannot be complete.” ― Viktor E. Frankl, Man’s Search for Meaning
Jung’s secret to a good life is developing a strong Self (the conscious centre of our psyche), which is how we choose “the good life” path. A healthy Self means confronting your shadow, integrating its wisdom, and using it to face external challenges with resilience. Self-awareness helps you recognise your triggers, understand your vulnerabilities, and choose your battles wisely.
“It is under all circumstances an advantage to be in full procession of one’s personality, otherwise, the repressed portions of the personality will only crop up as a hindrance elsewhere, not at some unimportant point, but at the very spot where we are most sensitive: This worm always rots the core. Instead of waging war on himself, it is surely better for a man to learn to tolerate himself and to convert his inner difficulties into real experiences instead of expending them in useless fantasies. Then at least he lives and does not waste his life in fruitless struggles.” — Carl Jung, Two Essays on Analytical Psychology
Carl Jung wants us to fully accept the inevitable fires of life.
As we confront the fire, we learn to co-exist with it. We may never be completely immune to its heat, but we develop coping mechanisms to rise above our suffering. It’s in the act of walking through them with courage and purpose that we create a meaningful path forward. Fire threatens, but it’s also a force of transformation. Through Jung’s fiery process, we can understand ourselves and lighten our path towards wholeness.
Speak in such a way that others love to listen to you: Listen in such a way that others love to speak to you.
George Bernard Shaw wrote that “Progress is impossible without change, and those who cannot change their minds cannot change anything.” Are you ready to change your mind?
Namaste.
Olly
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