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You Can't Give Too Much Love: Wants, Desires, and Needs

Updated: Jan 25

Simone Weil wrote that "If we go down into ourselves, we find that we possess exactly what we desire." I would change the last word in that sentence to need.


You have all you need. You are all you need. Needs are called needs because we need them. It's more than a fine line between need and insatible desire. In the latter it is impossible to get enough of anything: Social acceptance; external validation; material possessions; and physical sensations. It's insatiable. Whatever massaged our ego, stimulated and sated our appetites, created illusions of grandeur, tickled our senses, carried us to dreamland, took our mind off our troubles into fantasy and made us forget - that was what we wanted. Yet the fulfilment of these desires left us spiritually bankrupt.


Needs, wants, and desires


Our recovery begins with the discovery that we already have what we need, that we are what we need, and that unconditional love is the only thing that really matters. And we get unconditional love by giving unconditional love. When we invest our time in doing loving things, going deep into ourselves to learn God's will for us, we get even more than we hoped for.


To summarise, needs are those things that are essential for our survival and well-being; wants may alter the quality of life but are not essential; and desires are things we crave. Needs are essential nourishment. Wants are like the kid in a candy store eating until he is sick.


Today, I want to know my Higher Power's will for me and trust that I have the love I can never give too much of. When we feel love and kindness toward others, it not only makes others feel loved and cared for, but it helps us also develop an inner peace.


Namaste.


Sending you love, light, and blessings brothers.


Olly

Dr Olly Alexander Branford MBBS, MA(Cantab), PhD.

Fully qualified and certified coach


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