You're Not Stuck
- olivierbranford
- Dec 29, 2024
- 7 min read
Updated: Jan 25
This is my message to you: You’re not stuck unless you want to be.
You just need a little alchemy of your heart.
Do you feel scared, lonely, in emotional pain, depressed, anxious, fearful, glued to the floor and the walls, and stuck in a rut?
Dr Wayne W. Dyer wrote that "You are not stuck where you are unless you decide to be"
You know who you are, but you don’t know your Self, yet. You carry bucket-loads of hatred and anger, with no self-awareness.
Despite your hatred, you cannot draw others into conflict if they have love in their hearts. We all come from God and unto him we shall return. Like a river flows into the ocean. Like a ray of light, reflecting back to the sun. The more you love your Self, the less nonsense you will tolerate from others who are unconscious and spiritually dis-eased.
You keep pushing your Self down. You are your own enemy. When you are stuck in ego, you are behind enemy lines. You don’t love your Self, yet. But you could. It’s your choice. Put down your poison - do you not see that it’s killing you? Put down your resentments: Do you not see that they are driving you downwards in an endless spiral of negativity and hate? Be present. Find your centre within your Self. Be here now.
Forgive your own mistakes rather than trying to find them in others. Your skeletons are rattling in your closet: Everyone can see and hear them. Your mask is translucent. Everyone can see through it. Being a fake is deeply wounding you. Stop pretending to be what you are not and be who you truly are. Lose your shame. It’s ruling and ruining your life. You need not be ashamed: Only you are judging your Self. No-one else is even watching. Why do you hate your self so much? Why are you not letting equanimity in? Why do you have such an aversion to truly living?
Hatred is because of a misunderstanding or miscommunication, something that can be addressed and easy resolved by gentle reasoning, clarification, and wisdom.
But whatever is said or done to you, don't take offence and respond negatively or with hatred. Instead, respond with love, compassion, humility, and understanding. The hatred directed at you will be dissipated by your positive reactions. However, if you respond negatively, the hatred will intensify for you, as you know.
The world needs the real you. Change the way you look at things and the things you look at change: You change.
Open the floodgates of your heart for the inpouring of beautiful unconditional love that embraces everything.
Spiritual connection and prayer (leading to a spiritual experience) are the two forces which are gradually making a better world. We must work for the betterment of ourselves and other people. Faith without works is dead. But all work with people should be based on prayer. If we say a little prayer before we speak or try to help, it will make us more effective. Prayer is the force behind the work. Prayer is based on Faith that God is working with us and through us. We can believe that nothing is impossible in human relationships if we depend on the intuitive guidance of God. Relax into forgiveness.
The way you are being is repelling others.
Hatred cannot triumph over clarity, wisdom, love, and peace. Let go of all the things that are keeping you from being a BEing of light and compassion. Remember that you are an instrument for the transmission of love and light.
You’re just committed to certain patterns of behaviour because they helped you in the distant past. Those coping mechanisms no longer serve you. They are hurting you. Playing the role of a victim ensures that you remain a victim. Victims don’t grow and are incapable of transformation. Conflict serves no-one. The blame game is not a game, and there are no winners.
How difficult it must be to live within a body with a soul that creates suffering for others. I bless that soul, that it may find it's way to light.
You might feel like you are drowning: But trying to sink others in order to save your self will just sink both of you. You will lose if you keep playing this game: Truly. You need to let go of everything that is holding you back. Drop the rock that you are insisting on carrying. You are living in one room of a house and you have only one dim light on. You could live in a palace of light. You are being ill-advised on how to save your self. You can’t see how people are taking advantage of you for their own purposes.
Those behaviours have become more harmful to you than helpful. You are an assertive adult now, if you choose to be, not a frightened child. Stop choosing to be a lesser version of you.
The reason why you can’t move forward is because you keep applying an old formula to what could be a new expanded level in your new life.
You need to change your old formula to get a different result. To open a new door, you must close an old, rickety, broken one first. That can be heartbreaking and scary, but it’s essential to change and grow. It can be exhilarating and transformative if you so wish.
Rise up as a stronger and more miraculous you. Rise up as your true, fully integrated, Self. Take off your mask – it is suffocating you.
The only person who can save you is you. The only person who can drown you is you. It’s your choice. You are your saviour: It’s your choice if you want to survive. Don’t let others keep you down, submerged, and out. You are not doomed, unless you choose to be.
Miracles are real but you have to let them in.
There could be a new story emerging from your Self.
Why don't you want to be a BEing of compassion? Why do you carry so much anger? It's your choice.
I coach men who are seeking peace, joy, hope, infinite possibility, and abundance.
Check out this guided meditation by Ram Dass, on 'The Alchemy of the Heart'.
A guided meditation by Ram Dass, on 'The Alchemy of the Heart'.
Namaste.
Olly
Dr Olly Alexander Branford MBBS, MA(Cantab), PhD.
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