top of page
Search

Your Life Is More Than A Dash

Updated: Feb 26

If you could look at your tombstone, you may see two dates (your year of birth and your year of death), separated by a dash. The question is: What did you do with that dash?


The dash on your tombstone


The time between your birth and your death is very sacred. It was given to you as a gift. This is your life. What do you want to do between your birth and your death? What are your needs and your dreams? Most people, deep down, want joy and to to feel unconditional love. Everything else that you do is what you think will give you that. Mostly that is 'imitation love' such as power, money, relationships, and other addictions. You get programmed and lost. Outside circumstances can never give you what you are looking for. And even if they do, they don't last (this is called conditional wellbeing) or they give you headaches. Think higher. Reach for the real gold: Inside inherent bliss, which happens to be your natural state. This is unconditional wellbeing. The problem is that you have done stuff that prevents you from experiencing your natural state: Wanting things outside that will make you feel ok, as you don't feel ok.


Everyone, regardless of their background, has the same focus: Why are we here and what is our purpose? We live in a bizarre, crazy culture: We don't know why we are here because we don't have access to our sense of meaning. Anxiety is sky-rocketing. 284 million people have anxiety. Jeff Bezos, the executive chairman of Amazon, says that he tells all of his employees that he wants them to wake up terrified because he thinks that makes them productive. This is insane.


You were born. And you are going to die. These are absolute truths. They are the bookends of your life. You are not ok during your entire life and you are trying to be ok. Death is the point where you didn't succeed and have lost your opportunity. That's why people are afraid to die. If you were in ecstasy your entire life, you would be ok with dying. You don't want your life to come to an end because you weren't in ecstasy your whole life. You didn't complete your bucket list. This is proof that you are not ok.


Here is the reason that you have not found joy yet in your life: You are projecting what you want and what you don’t want onto the reality of the moment that is unfolding in front of you, and then you judge it. This is what determines how your life is and how you experience it.


It doesn’t have to be like that. There is no one else in there. What I teach is not to let one's outside affect what is happening inside. Breathe, accept, and surrender. Learn to be OK with what you experience outside. 


If you choose to not be this way, you’ve just destroyed your life. If you want the alternative, you need to do the inner work. This may be called spirituality: It has many names. But the main one might be called logic. This is the logic of spirituality. You might be an atheist (and as a scientist I used to be until I realised that Einstein was a spiritual Master), but you only get one shot at life. You might as well make it a good one! You may live it in the highest way. The real work is every minute of every day. Meditation helps tremendously in this way.


Namaste.


Sending you love, light, and blessings brothers.


Olly



Email me: 





Hello,

I am delighted and enchanted to meet you. I coach men with 'Deep Coaching', 'Supercoaching', and Transformative Life Coaching (TLC). Thank you for reading this far. I very much look forward to connecting with the highest version of you, to seeing your highest possibility, and to our conversations. Please do contact me via my email for a free connection call and a free experience of coaching on Zoom or in person. 


“Transformative life coaching uniquely creates and holds the space for you to see your self afresh, with clarity, and step into new ways of BEing, which will transform how you perceive and intuitively create your world. My work is to guide you to raise your own conscious awareness to the level that you want to achieve.”







Click here for the books that I know will help you along your journey of recovering your Self:









I have a Bachelor's degree in Natural Sciences from Trinity College, Cambridge; a Master's Degree in Philosophy from Trinity College, Cambridge; a PhD Doctorate in Scientific Research from University College London (UCL); a Medical Degree (MD/MBBS) from The Royal Free Hospital School of Medicine, London and have been a doctor and reconstructive trauma and cancer surgeon in London for 20 years. I have a number of other higher qualifications in science and surgery. I have published over 50 peer reviewed PubMed cited scientific journal articles, have been an associate editor and frequent scientific faculty member, and am the author of several scientific books. I have been awarded my Diploma in Transformative Life Coaching in London, which has International Coaching Federation (ICF) Accreditation, as well as the UK Association for Coaching (AC), and the European Mentoring and Coaching Council (EMCC). I have been on my own transformative journey full time for over five years and I am ready to be your guide to you finding out who you really are and how the world works.




Please let me know if you would like to join our 'VOICE for men' VIP community: 'Vulnerability & Openness Is a Choice Ensemble', 'Visibility Is Power', where men can find their strength, courage, and authenticity, by dropping their egocentric fears and instead communicate openly with vulnerability. We are co-creating this space. It will change your life. It will empower you. This community is a safe space for men to connect and discuss philosophy, spirituality, positive psychology, awakening to Self-realisation, wisdom and timeless Truths, to share our experience, strength and hope, and to find solutions to our pain and fears. Our meeting is free to join. There is no script, just sharing.

 
 
 

Comments

bottom of page